When "Father" Loses All Meaning
There is an incredibly profound line in the movie The Incredibles
. The bad guy, Syndrome, says, "When everyone's super, no one will be."
I was reminded of this line when I read this article about a sperm donor being the "father" of 150 children.
It is the last line of the article that reminds me of Syndrome's wisdom: How do you make connections with so many siblings? What does family mean to these children?
We live in an age of "family relativism" where the definition of family has become so broad that it has lost all meaning: when everything is a family, nothing is.
NFI's president was at a recent meeting of government officials in which someone asked "how do you define family?" The answer given by the government official was "we define family as any unit in which there is love." Really?
That definition implies where there is not
love, there is not
family. So, if I am told to pay child support, can I just say, "I don't love my kids, therefore they are not my family, therefore, I don't have to pay child support"? Try that argument out in court.
The reality is that this "love" definition is absolutely not how the government, nor anyone else, should or does define family.
As far as the impact on fatherhood is concerned, this is where I am most worried. Since fatherhood is a culturally constructed institution, when the culture is completely confused about what family is, fatherhood inevitably suffers. The above article discusses how sperm donor fathers are taken by surprise by how many kids their sperm is being used to create. They are keeping spreadsheets to keep track... is this heartless monstrosity the future of family and fatherhood? And note that the article says nothing
about the negative consequences that these children will face as a result of growing up without dads.
Tell us what you think...