For Father's of Older Children--No Time for an "Achy Breaky" Heart
For the last week or so, folks have been buzzing about this video
of Miley Cyrus taking a hit of salvia from a bong. No doubt, images like this are disturbing to many, especially the millions of parents whose children have regularly supported Miley and her squeaky clean alter-ego, Hannah Montana. Ironically, Mileys Disney show is called Hannah Montana Forever," but it certainly appears as if, now that Miley is an 18 year-old adult, she is intent of getting out of Montana as fast a possible.
Of note, there is one special parent that is quite disappointed with Miley's recent behavior, her dad, Billy Ray Cyrus. Check out what he tweeted after he first saw the video: Sorry guys. I had no idea. Just saw this stuff for the first time. Im so sad. There is much beyond my control right now.
Now, as a father of adult children, my heart really goes out to Billy Ray. But, I want to encourage himand all dads of older childrento stay engaged. Indeed, this is no time for him to get paralyzed by an achy breaky heart and two-step out of Mileys life. She needs him now more than ever and he must not succumb to the catcalls from the peanut galley of pop culture that wrongly counsel dads to lean out of an adult childs life at the very moment that they must lean in.
Lets face it. The very same folks that are encouraging Miley to draw deep from the bong and tell them what she is feeling will have little use for her when she can no longer get them into the A-list parties. These kinds of friends are much like parasites. They have no use for the dead. Indeed, as Billy Ray knows well. Fame is fleeting. Paternity is not
That said; let me give a few more reasons why Billy Ray needs to do whatever he can to help his daughter before its too late. First, there are the sad sagas of Britney Spears (Enough said) and Lindsay Lohan (More than enough said).
Second, there is Noah Cyrus, Billy Rays 10 years-old daughter, who idolizes her big sister and clearly hopes to follow in Mileys star-studded footsteps. A few weeks ago, I came across this video
on YouTube where Noah is begging Miley to perform her version of singer Akons hit Smack That. Just in case you can't fully understand what Noah is saying, here are the lyrics:Smack that, all on the floor. Smack that, give me some more. Smack that, til you get sore. Smack that, oh ooh.
(By the way, if you are confused about what that is, you can click here
to see Akons video. It clears things up nicely.)
True, there are "things" that are beyond Billy Rays, and every fathers, control and influence. But, his children are not one of them. Enough said.