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Good Dads and Bad Dads in TV Ads

  
  
  

My wife hates watching TV with me because whenever I see a commercial depicting fathers in a negative light, I go off on the same rant. So, she hears this rant almost nightly.

But to be fair to the Madison Avenue crowd, there are certainly lots of commercials showing dads in a positive, or at least realistic, light (note: showing dads acting like childish idiots is not realistic, nor is it helpful). In fact, NFI has given the Fatherhood Award™ to several of these companies, including Google, Subaru, and many more.

In the spirit of being fair and balanced, here is one good and one bad example of current TV ads depicting dads.

The good

As a baseball fan, former Little Leaguer (where my dad was my coach for several years), and high school player, I love this ad.

Some may argue that it is another ad showing a dad looking pretty dumb, but my problem is not so much with “dumbness,” but with ads that are not realistic. This one is. Not everyone can throw a baseball well. What matters is that this guy is so sincere, and he’s spending time with his son, one on one.

Most importantly, the ad does such a great job of telling a realistic and touching story. Look closely and you can see that the dad is still wearing his work clothes. He pulled into the driveway from work and his son was waiting for him in the front yard wanting to play catch. And he started playing with him right there – he didn’t even go inside to change his clothes! You can almost hear the kid saying, “Dad, dad! Let’s play catch!” And he, being the loving dad he is, dropped everything and started playing, despite his obvious lack of skills or comfortable clothes.

Humor, storytelling, and a positive message about fathers – this ad has it all. As opposed to this ad…

The bad

In contrast to the one above, this ad is not realistic. I do not know a single dad who would be this negligent and uncaring. Nor would a dad be “bought” so easily with the promise of food that was probably purchased with his own money. I also hate the recurring commercial theme of “if it weren’t for moms, American households would be bastions of chaos and permissiveness.” One could counter that the ad was “bending the truth” for a comical effect – but so was the above ad, and it was great and heartwarming and realistic. Again, note to commercial producers: you don’t have to make men and dads look like idiots in order to make funny ads. Frankly, I think it is lazy writers falling back on stereotypes who are making these kinds of commercials. The non-lazy ones are making gems like the VW ad above.

To be fair to Kraft, they are a sponsor of the upcoming Dad 2.0 Summit, so clearly they are trying to make a genuine effort to reach out to fathers. But with ads like this (and it is only one in a series of similarly bad ads), I don’t think they are going to have as much success as they’d like. To be sure, if they want to work with NFI, we would need to have a serious discussion about what they really think about fathers given the mocking nature of their ad campaign.

Have you seen any good fatherhood commercials lately? How about bad ones? Let us know.

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Comments

I notice how people in my everyday life are fascinated by the fact I am very involved in my children's lives. I never take a backseat to my wife. We do everything as a team. 
 
There are a lot of bad fathers out there (and mothers too for that matter). It's a damn shame fathers are portrayed in a negative light more times than not. Kudos to you for pointing out the positive.
Posted @ Thursday, January 24, 2013 8:54 AM by Fatherhooding
One of the things I find most frustrating is that when I drop my daughter off at daycare, they tell me things like, "your wife always gives your daughter the healthiest lunches" (um...I made my daughters lunches) or "your wife always dresses your daughter so cute" (um...I dressed her this morning and yesterday). Our society (and lets face it...the media) is driving the stereotype that fathers aren't much good for anything and really aren't needed. On the reverse, what would happen if the above commercial depicted as childish and uncaring? 
 
But at the same time, I'm not looking for a pat on the back for doing something I'm supposed to do. I'm going to do my job for my daughter even if our society doesn't honor that.
Posted @ Thursday, January 24, 2013 2:29 PM by James Watson
Uh, I hate to burst your bubble sir, but I think you missed the joke in the Volkswagon ad. 
 
The reason the dad is throwing so poorly is because he doesn't want his kid to learn how throw a fastball... and hit his car. I chuckled at the joke and all, but it's actually kind of a materialistic and shallow car commercial. 
 
I see your interpretation and all that, and everyone can take what they will from this, but I think you're giving the advertising world a bit too much credit here.
Posted @ Friday, January 25, 2013 10:40 AM by Jeremiah Wathen
To Mr Watson.....I'm with you....just being that Dad, doing for my children, regardless of what some commercial says I need to, or need not to. My children are the barometer. They have told me what they received as a child and have given me my props. That's important to me...not a advertisement. You're a Daddio101 Grad too!
Posted @ Friday, January 25, 2013 10:50 AM by Gregory J Daffin
Jeremiah, 
I am going to have to disagree with you on your interpretation. For three reasons: 
1) If he didn't want his kid to hit his car they wouldn't be having a catch right in front of it. And he also would be teaching him how to throw a ball accurately, not in the awkward way he is showing him, which is actually resulting in the ball coming close to the car, not vice versa. Finally, the car is in the background for a very mundane reason; it has to be in the same frame as the action, since they are shooting a TV commercial.  
2) The voiceover of the ad says it all: "pass down something he will be grateful for." In other words, "you are bad at throwing a baseball, dad, but you can pass your car down to him." 
3) VW has done lots of other great fatherhood ads, so I am giving them credit for doing another.  
Vince
Posted @ Friday, January 25, 2013 10:52 AM by Vincent DiCaro
I liked this one so much, I had to google it and share: 
 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1t-TB3-nuXI 
 
Talk about speaking their language. This dad does whatever it takes to let his son know he cares. Love it.
Posted @ Friday, January 25, 2013 11:15 AM by Fred
My wife has heard the same rant about bad TV dads from so often that now all I have to do is look at her and he say "I know". I go so far as to screen the shows my children watch on Disney and Nick, as many of the fathers are portrayed as idiots of buffoons (and the mother not much better as vain or conceited). I am happy to say that over the last few years their programs have gotten better. While the dads may still be occasionally silly or easily manipulated, they just as often show the parents seeing throw it and the children suffering actual consequences. So things are getting better, slowly. 
 
The commercial I currently can’t stand is the Gogurt, where everywhere the father goes he finds a sticky note reminding him not to forget the Gogurt for his children’s lunch. If my kids did something like that I would go out of my way to replace the Gogurt with something like carrot stick. 
Posted @ Friday, January 25, 2013 12:02 PM by JTwig
I have been frustrated by this long before I was a dad. I was an actor who often got cast in these commercials. I wanted the job, but often felt very guilty about it. Other stereotypes would not be tolerated in commercials but somehow the “inept and uncaring dad persists.” I happily set aside the acting career to be a full-time dad and have no regrets.
Posted @ Friday, January 25, 2013 1:59 PM by Ed Shimp
Ed - good for you!
Posted @ Saturday, January 26, 2013 7:03 PM by Vincent DiCaro
well said Ed. 
no-one can tell you, exactly what you have got to be.
Posted @ Friday, March 01, 2013 6:23 PM by cecil marton
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